Several months ago my three-year-old daughter Audrey asked my husband, “Daddy, can you pick up our house?” “Nope, I sure can’t,” replied Dad. Audrey, who is used to her Father teasing her, looked up with disbelief. “Be serious!” she shouted.
For Father’s Day, let’s dispel a few of the popular “irrelevant dad myths.”
3 Dad Myths That Need to Stop
Myth 1: Dads work because kids need their Moms more. Ideally, both parents would work from home and be fully accessible to their kids, but because of modern industrialism working from home is not always an option. So, for that reason Dads have traditionally sacrificed themselves and worked away from home so that Mom could stay with the kids. In other words, Dads work away from home to provide for their family because they are gentlemen, not because a paycheck is all their kids require of them.
Myth 2: Divorce doesn’t have to hurt children. Divorce hurts children, period! The greatest Mom in the world cannot fill the void of a fatherless home. No matter what the bozos in black robes say, every other weekend – every other holiday is not enough. Just ask your kids. Nor, do heavy doses of child support ease their pain. They just want their Dads. And don’t be fooled, I have never met someone that said they were traumatized by their parents arguing, but I know tons of people that still feel the pain of their parents’ divorce from twenty plus years ago.
Myth 3: Dads are beer guzzling buffoons. From the media‘s portrayal, you would think all women are sluts and all men are bumbling idiots. “Homer Simpson” popularized the role, and now there are countless primetime family entertainment shows where the only thing dumber than dad is the family pet – if dad is lucky. Sometimes, even the dog shows more sense than him. And if you watch real closely, you will see that dad’s primary loves are beer, sexy women (other than his wife), and football! That is about all his simple brain can process. He may love his kids, but is just too dumb to show it.
Sadly, many fathers have fallen victim to these and many other harmful myths. They have come to believe that their children don’t really need them and have acted accordingly. This Father’s Day, I encourage you to remind the dads in your lives that they are our heroes – that we couldn’t live without them. Happy Father’s Day!
Ooh, I like #3. I don’t even find the buffoon type funny–they seem like a lazy writer’s way to make jokes. I hardly know any dads who fit the buffoon stereotype.
I agree, it’s getting old. Thanks for stopping by.
What a beautiful tribute to all dads, to dispel these myths and give thanks! Blessings to you!
I was a single mom for 5 years… and I cannot imagine going back. Dad’s are so important in a family!!
Kristen @ Trial & Error Homemaking
I really appreciate your comment. Hope you have a great Father’s Day!
Great post, and reminder of how blessed we are to have such great men in our lives.
What a great post! I completely agree. I am so very thankful for my wonderful husband and the great daddy he is. I can’t even imagine trying to do this on my own.
Terrific post! Let’s dispel those myths. So grateful I have a husband who knows his kids need him! Visiting from TPT.
Aww… I really, truly love this. Here’s to the amazing, wonderful, house lifting Dads of the world.
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It’s so true, kids need their dads. Even seeing their dads getting up and going to work sends the message that taking care of the family is important.
A wonderful and beautiful PINK post! Happy Father’s Day!
HPS, a little late but catching up to visit you. Here’s my PINK, hope you’d come and see. Have a great weekend.
I am now following your blog. It would be lovely to have you follow back, thank you.
You have a beautiful entry this week.
Happy Pink Saturday. Come and take a peek at my PINK when you get a chance. Enjoy Father’s Day!
Great post!! Dads are the best!!! Thanks for sharing on our “Strut Your Stuff Saturday”. Hope you come back next week. -The Sisters
I appreciate your post, but as a single mom of 4 boys, I must respectfully disagree.
Yes, dads who are involved, caring, and good role-models for their children are important. On the other hand, in some cases (such as mine), having a father who is disrespectful, abusive, and demonstrates inappropriate behavior to children, should have no part of raising a family.
Divorce happens. It’s always going to happen. It can be dealt with in a way that keeps the best interest of the children in mind.
My 4 boys (age 12,7,4, and 1) have wonderful male role models in their lives. Their father is not one of them.
Am I worried about how this effects my children ? Of course.
But I am comforted by the fact that my boys are all amazingly smart, respectful, happy, and caring. I know they would not be the wonderful kids they are, if I had stayed in a relationship that was unhealthy for all of us.
Yes, I agree that there are instances when children may do better away from an abusive parent, whether it is their father or mother. However, I think we can agree that this is not the ideal situation. Ideally every child would have a great mother and father. That said, it sounds like you are a great mom and are doing everything in your power to make sure your kids turn out all right and I am sure that they will. Thanks for your input, sorry if I offended you.
well written post, kids need their Dad and Dads need their kids. I have been blessed to find a great Dad for my children and it sounds like you have too.
love love love this post! Dad is such a huge part of the kids’ lives and very active in all aspects of schooling also. It’s nice to see dads appreciated also – especially when it’s not just on Father’s Day 🙂 Sounds like you have a great dad there and so do we!
So true! Dads are so important and our kids need them! Thanks so much for sharing at Mom On Timeout!
Thank you for posting this! I feel like our generation of husbands have a huge burden to carry of past stereotypes (the buffon/idiot dad and the ‘tough working dad’) to become the men they’re meant to be. My husband is an amazing father who is so invovled with his kids, even though he works away from home. 🙂
You are so right! Your husband sounds wonderful. Thanks for stopping by!
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What a wonderful and powerful post. Thank you so much for sharing it at Sharing Saturday.
Just want you to know you will be featured tomorrow at Sharing Saturday!
Hi Carrie, I’m glad you liked it. Thanks so much. I’ll see you there!
Tulip,
I completely agree, children need their dads. Dads offer so much to their lives that mom’s could never give them. The best news is that for families without dads, other honorable men can step up and ‘father’ those children as well. That’s our job to be there for one another. 🙂
Thanks for sharing this great post on Saturday Show & Tell @ Cheerios and Lattes last week! 🙂 Hope to see you again this weekend! 🙂
Mackenzie
I thought your comment on divorce was interesting. I agree that kids needs their mom and dad’s no matter the situation between the parents, kids shouldn’t suffer.
Thank you Austine!
Well written and so true! Kids especially girls need to see their Dad as their hero.