There are days that are filled with snuggles, hugs, kisses, smiles and laughter. My little blessings are the sunshine to my days and I love being a mom. It’s all I ever wanted to be.
Then there are days that are filled with tears, anger, disappointment, ugly words and hurt feelings. My little blessings sometimes mistake who I am. I am a mother, not a friend.
Being a mother is hard sometimes. We wish you could always have sunshiney days filled with having fun with our little blessings, but that isn’t always possible. Sometimes being a mom gets us labeled as mean. I often refer to myself as a mean mom, it doesn’t bother me. After all, I am a mother, not a friend.
Being a Mother Isn’t About Being a Friend
Our little blessings don’t understand the difficulty of being a mother. They don’t see that the choices we’re making are with their best interest in mind. They just want us to let them do what they want because they can’t see the outcomes that we can.
It’s important that we remember that we are called to be a mother not a friend.
The choices that we’ll make on our motherhood journey often won’t be popular. The explanations and reasons we offer will not be received well at times. Yet, just because our little blessings don’t like what they hear doesn’t mean that we give in and let them have their way.
Our little blessings need us to stay strong and be their mother. Even if they think they want a friend.
Being a mother isn’t always easy. There are times when it will seem like the most difficult job in the world. Sometimes we’ll wonder why we wanted to be a mother in the first place. After all, it isn’t as easy as it looked is it?
Decisions we never thought about having to make will show up each and every day and we can’t avoid them. Our little blessings will need directions and a mother needs to have the answers. A friend doesn’t offer direction or answers, they just go with the flow.
Someday the choices we made on our motherhood journey will be evident in the lives of our little blessings. If we’re prone to giving in, our little blessings will expect that throughout their lives from everyone. If we guide our little blessings as their mother not their friend, our little blessings will learn respect and they will be able to listen to authority throughout their lives.
Will our choices reveal that we were more concerned with being a friend to our little blessings or were we the mother that our little blessings needed, but didn’t want at the time?