Magic Motivators: Sticks

Rewards for Children

rewards for children

I swear by this “magic motivator!”  I took some jars and wrote my children’s names on them.  Every time my children are good mannered, respectful, or obedient, I reward them with a Popsicle stick in their jar.  Whenever they are rude, defiant, or disobedient, I remove a stick from their jars.  Once my children have earned a certain number of Popsicle sticks they get a small reward.  We have a “treasure chest” loaded with small inexpensive toys and prizes.  Our children are allowed to look inside the chest anytime they want.  This keeps their eyes on the prize – focused and motivated.

I believe that there are two reasons that this method is so effective with my kids.  The first reason is obvious – my kids are excited and motivated to win the prizes.  However, the second reason is slightly less obvious.  I think that the Popsicle sticks help my children visualize their behavior.  A full jar is a pretty good indicator that their behavior is great and an empty jar shows them that they are missing the mark.  This helps my children self-correct.

Now, I will offer this one word of warning:  Do not use the Popsicle stick reward system as a replacement to more traditional methods of discipline.  I use them as a positive supplement. While I still spank my children or put them in time-out from time to time, I have noticed a drastic decrease in bad behavior since I started implementing my Popsicle stick jars.

I hope this tip helps.  There are hundreds of variations to this system.  If you use a different “magic motivator,” please leave a comment sharing your technique.  I am always looking for new “effective” ideas.

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Comments

  1. Funny story, you just commented on my site and I visited your page. Then, I found this awesome idea on another site and found you again. Ok, we were meant to be blog friends! :) haha!
    I’d love for you to join my Saturday Show & Tell; I know my readers will love your ideas too! Have a great weekend! :)
    Mackenzie
    http://www.cheeriosandlattes.com

    • Hi Mackenzie, It was meant to be! I loved your site and was stuck on it for longer than I like to mention! I would love to come and share on Saturday, thanks so much for letting me know!

  2. That is definitely a great motivator…and a visible on too! I am always amazed how silly sticker or meaningless plastic trinkets could be so motivational…but I have seen it over and over happen in my house…so i know they are!

  3. This is such a grand idea!

  4. Thanks for linking this up in Homeschooling on the Cheap! I’m featuring you on my Facebook page today! Love this idea!

    Kelli
    https://www.facebook.com/3BoysandaDog

  5. I love this! I’m going to need to put one together for my daughter! Thanks for linking up to the Kids Co-Op!

  6. Hello Janine, this really is a great blog. Education is very important to us in this house, my husband is a teacher. I am now following and can’t wait to ready more. Thanks for stopping by The Bargain Game.

  7. I like this blog very much.
    I hope my students will enjoy as well as learn. :)

  8. I was just reading about this idea for older kids, but using money. (I’m not sure how I feel about using actual money unless it was tied to ‘above and beyond’ type chores…but that is irrelevant =) This is a neat idea for younger kids! Thanks for sharing at Trivium Tuesdays!

    • Hi Amy, You could use pennies instead of sticks for younger children, you could even use the sticks for older children to see how much allowance they get. It is really a versatile method to help them visualize their behavior. You could use anything. Thanks for stopping by.

  9. Amy, We have a treasure box system too. I think it is a great way to teach your kids that good behavior brings good rewards. Thanks for visiting me! You have beautiful daughters too.

  10. What a great idea! I would love for you to come and share on the Creative Corner Hop. Our linky will be open all week.

    Sandy
    Cherished Handmade Treasures

  11. i like this idea. though i admit, i always lose track of these types of programs. any tips to stay on top of it?

    • I would fall into the same trap, but it is hard not to ignore the colorful jar if you display it in a prominent place. I also like to put some sticks in my pocket in the morning. Who wants to carry sticks in their pocket all day? I Have to think of good things my children do so I can get rid of them. I will also reward for different tasks and helping me around the house. If you tell your child that they will get a stick for helping you out before the task, they will usually hold you to your word. I even incorporate sticks into learning games. I do have some trouble remembering to make them take one away for bad behavior, but I try to be consistent as possible. It really works well in our home. I hope that helps. Thanks for asking!

  12. Visual motivators whether pop sticks or stickers have always been a great way for children to see and track their own behavior! We used to have a small treat box when they were little as well… harder now that they are bigger but I still love the idea! Thanks for sharing at tip toe thru tuesday!

  13. Very interesting! I don’t children anymore that are little, but if they were, I might be interested in trying this! I appreciated the fact that you emphasized the fact that this is a supplement rather than a substitution for other discipline methods!

  14. I have been looking for little incentive ways like this to help my kids! Great idea! Visiting from TPT!

  15. That looks like a great reward system too!

    Renonda @ Snickety Things

  16. WOW! This looks like a great system! We’re going to have to try it out!!! Thanks for linking up to “Strut Your Stuff Saturday!” We hope to see you again! -The Sisters

  17. How I wish this would work with MY KIDDOS! Fortunately most of the time they’re well behaved and mannered, but sometimes they need reminders.

  18. I love this idea! Wish I had known it when mine were little, don’t think it will work so well with my adult children, but will use it with my granddaughter. Thank you for sharing.

    • Your granddaughter will love Popsicle sticks. My youngest calls them pop sticks. It is so funny when we have guests because my children will ask to count their Popsicle sticks and our guests give them funniest looks. Thanks for stopping by!

  19. great idea! this would probably work really well with my daughter, she needs visual things to remind her… :)

  20. I love this practical post! I will be featuring it tomorrow on ‘EOA’Wednesday :)
    Keep up the great writing!

  21. cool idea!

  22. This is such a great idea! I’d love for you to come share this at our Pinteresting Party!

  23. Thanks so much for sharing this. I hope you’ll come back again and join us again this week with some more great ideas on Saturday Show and Tell.
    -Mackenzie
    http://www.cheeriosandlattes.com

  24. Rather than removing a stick that they earned (it’s discouraging to lose something you earned!), you might try having a consequence jar that, when enough sticks are in THAT jar, a consequence is earned–cleaning grout, picking up dog poop, washing windows–anything unpleasant that mom doesn’t like to do that will be equally unpleasant for the young ‘ens. I used a variation of this in my classroom and the visual was strong, but I had a rule that they could not lose their earned “stars” (rather than sticks) and if they had a consequence (3 “x’s”) they knew very well they had earned that too–I had a list of consequences they could choose from. We wiped the slate clean every Monday–fresh start, but no loss of “stars”. This was an amazingly powerful classroom management tool!

  25. Wonderful idea! I would love for you to share this on Eco Kids: http://organicaspirations.blogspot.com/search/label/Eco%20Kids

    I’m going to try it!

  26. Great idea, I am going to try this with my daughter!

  27. Great idea!! Thanks for sharing it with us at Eco-Kids Tuesday!

  28. Just out of interest, how many pop sticks would equal a reward? Do you assign a certain number based on age?

    • Hi Liesl! That is a great question. We do 40 so that it takes all week to get a prize. We also do bigger wooden shapes for extra special behavior and 5 of those can be turned in for a treat. You can also do less if they are young and you want to show them how it works.

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