Values for Children: Independence

Want to teach your children values? Below, you will find tips, tools, and resources to teach them about Independence.

Definition

Independence is taking care of yourself with little help from others. Independent people are not lazy. They never ask others to do things that they can do for themselves.

Verse

“We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.” Hebrews 6:12

“Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth.” Proverbs 10:4

Let’s Talk About Independence

Room/Quiet Time: Designate a time for your children to play or do an activity by themselves. Set a timer. Start with 5 minutes and gradually increase the time until they can do 1 hour.
Benefits: Demonstrate the advantages of being independent by giving them special privileges when they accomplish their tasks. For example, when my daughter learned how to tie her shoes and zip her coat, I let her go outside before her sister and I.
Patience: Sometimes it is easier and faster for us to do things for our children. However, teaching them these skills now will save you more time later. If your children have the desire to something for themselves, let them do it. Just make sure they ask you politely.
Let them Struggle: Do not preemptively rush to your children’s aid at the slightest sign of struggle or discomfort. Give them time and space to struggle and work things out on their own. Step in as a last resort.

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Books that Teach Values: Independence

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Little Critter: All By Myself
Little critter is growing up and can do a lot. Sometimes the task is difficult, but he tries his best and his family is so proud. Ages 2+

Hatchet
Gary Paulsen’s award winning tale of a boy lost in the wilderness is the ultimate tale of survival and independence. This book teaches the importance of knowing how to take care of yourself. Ages 7+

Character and Social Development Curriculum– The books included in this set will teach your children to act in accordance with Biblical virtues, like: love for God, respect for authority, hard work, self-discipline, personal accountability, and an awareness and concern for others.These books give parents practical ideas for fostering these virtues in their children’s day to day lives.