You are constantly going. Wipe a nose, clean a dish, make a call, cook a fish, wipe the floor, make a bed, do some more, get ahead; you are always in a hurry.
When you think you can’t go on, you throw back some black elixir; mocha, frappe, Americano. What are you striving for?
Is your reputation on the line? Are you trying to get a degree? Are you going for a promotion? Do you want your children to be successful? Is fame your goal?
These things aren’t bad, but all are NOT worth killing yourself for. And while you’re dying inside to get ahead, you’re missing out on more important things.
Remember, there are some people who have everything they’ve ever wanted, yet somehow, it isn’t enough.
So you believe the saying, “hard work never killed anyone” do you? Well it simply isn’t true. I’ve pulled plenty of all-nighters. I know what happens when you do too much.
You slowly turn into something scary.
The littlest things will set you off. Your husband blows his nose too LOUD! The dog licks YOUR FEET! Then, YOUR. KID. GIGGLES! You make little mistakes, and they turn into big mistakes.
Why, why are you doing this to yourself?
So you want to meet your goals? Your definition of success is just out of reach and if only you could do more, faster…
“Bring it on!”, you say.
Soon your goals become a blur in the midst of all the commitments you’ve made. You feel dazed and confused like someone just jumped you in a back alley. What happened to that person you once were? How can you get back to feeling normal again?
Just say no!
Do you have your goals written down? Do you have your priorities lined out? Now is the time.
What is most important to you? List those in order; 3 Big goals and what it is going to take to meet them, write those next.
If someone asks you to do something, look at your goals and priorities. Does it line up and do you have the time and energy to do it? No? Then just say no!
Reserve your yeses for things that really line up. Things that you’ve been missing out on in the midst of Chaos. The simple pleasures in life that you’ve been taking for granted.
The hugs, kisses, meaningful conversation. The relationships. The things that really make life worth living.
To the moms who do too much: Sometimes less is more.