We are mothers, not referees! Yet, many mothers spend a good portion of their time jumping in and breaking an endless cycle of squabbling between their children. If this sounds like you, here is a method that, when combined with other traditional discipline methods, works like a charm! Use these four tips and your children will learn to get along in no time.
It takes two to tangle. I am surprised by how many parents forget this simply truth. If your children are constantly at each other’s throats, separate them and the fighting will immediately cease. Then, the trick is to keep them separated. Yes, simply keep them separated until they can’t bear it anymore, and then keep them separated a little longer. There is no set time that must pass. Or I should say, the required isolation time is different for all children. Some children will need a day apart and others a week or more. You will know it is time to reunite your children, because they will be begging for it.
Consistently Repeat. After your children are reunited they will get along, but it will likely be short lived. As soon as they start bickering again, immediately separate them – no warnings. Repeat the process a few more times and you should see some definite improvements.
Absence makes the Heart grow fonder. This eternal truth applies to all relationships, not just lovers. In these times of isolation, your children experience loneliness. Out of their loneliness they begin to miss and genuinely appreciate their siblings’ companionship. This helps foster a willingness, and then a desire, to get along.
Familiarity breeds contempt. This is another eternal truth that plagues all relationships. Once you have successfully reunited your children, make sure that they have time alone everyday. These alone times ensure that your children continue to appreciate the time that they have together. Also, children must learn to entertain themselves. Doing so, ensures that they feel comfortable disengaging and playing by themselves.
Hope these tips help. If you have any suggestions, whether you agree or disagree, we would love to hear from you!
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