Hi again Pamela, I also recommend reading Sacred Marriage and Absolutely Organized by Debbie Lillard. Both of those might help with your marriage and managing everyday life. Thanks so much for sharing your heart. God Bless!

Great suggestions Melanie!

Hi Julie,
I’m sorry this discouraged you. Life is tough, no doubt. There are seasons when you are not going to get much rest or be able to say no. I didn’t mean this to be about family and home. I meant this to encourage you too keep your eyes on the important things in life, simplify, and keep your goals in mind.

For me, this means that sometimes I have to say no to friends, no to more stuff, no to cable, no to helping at the church, no to that big piece of chocolate cake I want, no to any extra curricular activities the kids want to do. Paying the bills, laundry, cooking, cleaning, those things are different, those are your priorities.

I hope that you get some relief this year and things get easier very soon.

Hi Pamela,
I totally understand what you mean. Although I don’t know your exact situation. He probably means well and is just used to things a certain way. I think if you stay the course and just try your best that is all that you can do. Keep in mind that you are really doing the work for God.
When I was first married, I felt a little bit like this. I also didn’t believe in making a schedule or having a daily planner. When I stepped back and looked at my husband’s requests not as demands or as commands, but instead as things that I could improve on, it changed a lot of things. Now I have 4 kids and I get 3 times more done. My husband also helps out more now that he knows how much work kids are 🙂

Your husband loves you. Trust in his leadership. Now, if he is abusive that is another story.

In Scripture, God doesn’t mean we shouldn’t clean our house or let our appearances go, He means that in the end, we will be taken care of if we trust in Him. “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:33-34

i totally unferstand this dilema Pamelaxx

Pamela, perhaps you could give him the list of duties he expects from you for one day. And see if he can achieve it all. Pushing yourself to do more than you have time/energy for, will only cause you to resent him down the track. Why is he not listening to you? Feel good for what you are achieving and do not feel guilty if you cannot live up to his expectations. If you need help, ask for help. May be you could hire a cleaner once a fortnight to help out or ask a family member to help out once a week? You do not have to be a superwoman. It’s your life too. Good luck!