Thanks! Unfortunately spanking is illegal where I am, the brainchild of good intentions and a Nanny state, which leaves us scrambling for other methods of discipline. I never thought about giving another punishment along with the timeout so we tried it tonight. She didn’t like the loss of privilege but I guess the first few days are always the worst.

Hi Micky,

Yes, we have done that too. It works sometimes to get them to calm down, however, after that they receive another punishment for throwing a fit like another timeout or toys getting a timeout, or the loss of a privilege like no show-time or an early bedtime. For timeouts to be effective, we want them to have the right attitude about it. If they are crying, pouting, spitting, or hitting, we do not start the timer. We start their time when they understand that they have done something wrong and that is why they are in timeout.

We also use spanking to discipline our children. If they are out of control and throwing a fit, sometimes putting them somewhere to calm down on their own is passing on the control to them. It allows them to manipulate us because they know we will act differently to prevent a tantrum. We have only had 1 child throw tantrums (our oldest). She did it a few times when she was about 3yrs old. Since we spanked her for it, she stopped doing it. Spanking prevented her staying in that disturbed-out-of-control state where hate and anger fester and grow.

Thanks for your question! I hope it helps.

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