I was embarrassed, but proud at the same time. My little Audrey was only 2, but she had taken our values and made them her own, although used in the wrong place at the wrong time.
It happened when I was hosting a baby shower for my cousin. I looked across the room and saw Audrey in the arms of a guest. She was a little shy back then and it took a little before she warmed up. Soon, she was smiling, giggling, and having a great time.
I couldn’t believe what she did next! I watched Audrey grab the woman’s zipper on the front of her shirt and zipping it up, she exclaimed, “You’re shirt is low.”
The woman was very gracious and said, “You’re probably right my dear,” and laughed. I guess I should have taught Audrey more about social etiquette.
Even though I was as red as a beet, I was extremely proud. Who knew a 2 year old could internalize habits even adults struggle with?
Modesty is Important
While I work hard to instill the value of modesty in my girls, the world makes it hard to do. Sex sells. Now, shorter is better and less is more. Many believe that modesty is unnecessary for little girls; only perverts would look at them inappropriately.
However, modesty is important because it’s about priorities. It is a reflection of the heart. “Do you not know that your bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20.
Let’s remember, as our creator and savior, God has given us a body and has made it pure. If we want our little girls to grow into young ladies that honor God, we must be vigilant. If we teach our little girls NOW that the way they dress affects who they are, and the people around them, we can help develop in them a healthy attitude toward beauty and appearance.
3 Ways to Practice Modesty
Here are three ways my little ladies and I practice modesty.
1. Put Some Pants On!
Sometimes it is better to take preventive measures than have accidents happen. For example, I was constantly telling my girls to keep their dresses down, or not to hang upside down in their dresses, or to close their legs when they are wearing a dress and on and on. My girls love wearing dresses. So now, instead of correcting constantly, we just wear pants or shorts under our dresses. I like to too, because I don’t have to be so self conscious about accidentally showing everyone my underwear.
I make a point of telling my girls that they’re beautiful, but I don’t just leave it at that. I tell them why they are beautiful. It isn’t about their complexion or features, but about what I see in their heart. They are beautiful because they have good manners, love God, and care about others.
3. Asking for Help
Sometimes I ask my daughters for help when choosing an outfit. This gives me the opportunity to talk about why I wear what I do and see if they can catch if something I’m wearing is immodest. Another great opportunity for this discussion is at the store. I’ll ask my daughters to show me an outfit that they like and try it on to see what they think! 🙂
Do you teach your little girls about modesty? I’d love to hear how! Please leave a comment.
Modesty Unit Study
It’s the Heart, Not the Hemline is a 5 week unit study on modesty from a biblical perspective for girls ages 8-14 years old. This study includes detailed daily lessons, scripture memory exercises, craft and activity prompts, as well as parent/child journals all offering a solid foundation leading towards wisdom in modesty. KJV and ESV translations are both included.